Living with STDs

Living with STDs


Living with while carrying STD may be hard, particularly if you have ones that has no cure. That moment when you find out about them might feel like the end of the world, and not to mention a lot of unanswered questions:

  • How can I tell my partner? Or my past partners? And what are they going to think of me?
  • If my STDs have no cure, how can I even express myself to future partners?
  • What will my family, friends, and other people who I personally care about think?
  • What types of symptoms will I get? Are they going to be painful? What if I become unfertilized, sterile or even die?
  • Are my treatments going to be painful? Or can I even afford them?

It’s easier to speak to your partners regarding STD/HIV once you’ve calmed down and accepted it yourself. Provide yourself time to figure through it. If you’re well aware and recognize the facts regarding STDs or HIV, you’ll be a lot of assured and at-ease when discussing the matters.


If you are nervous regarding expressing yourself to your partners, here are a couple of tips to assist you to feel more comfortable:

  • Try role-playing with a trusted person or practice in front of a mirror. Keep in mind that you need to actually speak out loud.
  • Be natural. Accept it as who you are now. Pick the practice time when you are not distracted by anything.
  • Speak confidently. This is not a confession. You are just simply sharing who you are to another person
  • Stay calm. You don’t want your partner to see you upset and assume that it’s much worse than it actually is.
  • Be positive and expect positive reactions. Chances are people will react the same way you expect them to.

With those being said, what they think of you or treat you after you express you tell them is out of your reach. So why being bothered by that so much? It is indeed painful when someone reject you but just know that it’s out of your hands. You just have to accept it and move on. At least you are being upfront and honest with them. If they don’t accept you then move on and find someone who will.


Also know that you are definitely alone in this. There are lots of people who are going through the same thing. You are not by yourself in this fight. There are many support groups you can reach out to online or even in your local area. There are even dating sites for people that carry STDs. Don’t be afraid of reaching out for help.


People i wish to inform that i am positive



It is an ethical thing to do to tell the people that you have sex with (especially unprotected sex) about your condition. They need to be informed so they can get checked and prevent further spreading out. It is also a law that you have to tell about your STD conditions (if you have one) before having sex.


Some folks do not tell their friends and families as a result of they do not wish them to stress or they are petrified of being rejected. By not telling, you may be cheating yourself out of a vital supply of affection and support.



You are protected by law so you would not lose your job just because you are carrying an STD. It would be wise to tell your boss/manager/supervisor about your condition so you can have an easier time scheduling doctor appointments or other health reasons. You can also tell your close coworker because having another support from a place you would spend so much time at doesn’t hurt.


Roommates usually see you at your most vulnerable. So decide carefully and see if telling them will actually help or even cause you more stress.


I’m positive, it feels like I can’t live a normal life anymore.

A lot of people have a misconception of that when they are positive, they cannot have a normal sex lives or have to stop completely. That is not true and does not have to happen unless you purposely decide for it to be like that. Of course you have to follow safe procedures and admit that you have STDs, but as long as you have a positive mindset and don’t let rejections get you personally, you should be okay to have a normal sex life


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